I recently visited our local library. Upon exiting I noticed a shelf which contained books and cd’s for sale. I casually walked over to browse through the books and cd’s.
I looked up and the price chart said 4 books for $ 1 and cd’s for $ 1. I picked some books out that I would read to the kids and almost as though it were glowing and reaching out to grab my hand I stared at a cd. It was a Dr.Phil – Family First cd set. A quotation about the cd read…….”you are not raising children, you are raising adults, and everything you do today impacts what kind of adult your child will become. You are building the future.” To me, this was powerful enough to grab my attention and pay the paltry dollar and listen.
This cd provided me with some very important sources of information to help guide your child into being a wonderful person but living a happy life. How could I not deny my kids this opportunity.
Upon listening I quickly learned that the opportunity was not for them. It was for me. It is an opportunity for me to grow, be the best parent I can to my amazing kids and help them to be the best they can be and want to be in life.
I gained knowledge in the importance of sharing communication with your kids in regards to setting family values and establishing what interests they have, goals they would like to work towards and helping them with a plan to get there. I learned these are very important for the growth of the child but also to learn about who they really are.
I find that life blinds us to the needs of others as we are caught in a struggle to try and fill our own needs. I want to help give my kids the best opportunity to be happy, help them define “what that is” to them as they grow, and help guide them into being extraordinary people. In order to do that, I now realize I must strive for that myself.
This is one of my defined family goals. It is a long term goal but requires these constant communication techniques for the short term in order to develop the results for the long term. The beneficiaries will be my children but during the process I will be guaranteed to grow as a parent and person.
Aside from loving them unconditionally, giving them a winning edge on finding their definition of happiness in their lives is one of the best gifts I could ever give them.