A life without fear means accepting and embracing change.
Change is an action word that does not always embrace our focused and guided efforts.
It may seem like a welcoming opportunity, but as thoughts of change resonate within us, a gradual resistance forms. Change can be a difficult transition to grasp. It most often displaces us from our areas of comfort.
Displacement is most apparent when it involves taking steps towards making efforts to improve our life. Roadblocks of doubt are constructed, creating illusions of dead ends with limited possibilities. These discourage us from continuing with the path to change.
Doubts translate into greater polarizing spheres of fear.
Common fears of changing our life may include fear of failure, fear of losing friends/family, fear of humiliation, fear of time/money.
The root cause of a fear is developed from specific circumstances and moments in our lives. Even though the moment or circumstance may have been one instance with a less than desired outcome, we decide to carry this doubt or fear in our mind.
It begins to disable our instinctive reactions, forming a comfort area with signs that read, “do not leave”, “do not cross”, “danger beyond this point.”
We may never realize how the fears we have embraced hold us back in our lives. They prevent us from attaining the life we envision and taking the steps necessary to achieve it.
When I ask myself, “what is failure?”
My defined response is, “failing to achieve a goal, task, action and not extracting any type of value from the experience.”
When I ask myself this question and analyze my response, it means my comprehension for the outcome of failure is optional.
Failure is only failure if I decide to make it so.
Learning from unsuccessful opportunities is simply a transition towards success.
Asking the right questions begins to dismantle our beliefs about our fears which we mightily grip.
Viewing the fears I have held throughout my life reveals interesting convictions.
Are my fears more important to me than living a fulfilling, happy life with passion that I can awake and close my eyes to each day?
Of course the resounding answer is NO!
I have now established that my fears are not more important to me than living a great life I envision.
I can now start to dismantle my fears.
Asking myself what the truths and realities of my fears are helps me to shrink the doubts and create optimism, initiative, and inner strength to take steps forward.
My mind no longer visualizes failure. It begins to create opportunity, growth, perceptual vision of what I choose my accomplishments and achievements to be.
When I understand the realities of my fears I can begin to take steps of action to remove the roadblocks that I have given permission to be placed in front of me.
Living and doing things we love most in life can only produce great experiences, great opportunities and bring a gratifying fulfillment we are eternally grateful for everyday.
- Are the fears you hold now, greater than the life you want and envision?
- What is the true reality of the fears you have held onto?
- When you have taken the time to realize the true reality of your fears, how will these lessened fears change your opportunities moving towards the life you envision?